Keep the Fights Clean

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Quick Tip Video Clip on How to do your own post-argument analysis.

The argument is over, but don't just move on, move FORWARD. Once the dust has settled a bit, the claws have been retracted and you can speak again with a commitment to connection and creativity, THEN try this Peace Practice of doing a post-argument analysis or as we like to call it Argument Even-Better-If-ing… Needing more personalized support? Consider an Argument Even Better If-ing single coaching session to have Gaby guide you through moving from argument to intimacy.

Consider this Argument Even Better If-ing tool to be your handle-rails to hold onto when you want to not just move past an argument, but to move FORWARD instead.

Turn the conflict into connection with this peaceful and playful practice for putting the problems behind you and bringing new solutions to the surface.

Embrace TRUE resolution. PRACTICE getting good at not just ending an argument but actually translating it into a DEEPER intimacy.

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Consider this Argument Even Better If-ing tool to be your handle-rails to hold onto when you want to not just move past an argument, but to move FORWARD instead. Turn the conflict into connection with this peaceful and playful practice for putting the problems behind you and bringing new solutions to the surface. Embrace TRUE resolution. PRACTICE getting good at not just ending an argument but actually translating it into a DEEPER intimacy. #relationshipgoals #couplesgoals #creatingforever

Healthy Relationship Advice

What Can I Do

"What CAN I do?" Caress

You've had the fight, and for a moment you forgot you were allies and thought you were adversaries! Now post-argument, there's a disconnect or even resentment between you. What I call Rift Residue. Then you've gotten through it in the moment, but now how do you come back together? ❤️ How can you heal the hurts, bridge the disconnect and move forward creatively TOGETHER? ❤️ How can you honor each other’s needs and experiences even in conflict? ❤️ How can you show each other how much you care and how committed you are to a playful, peaceful and passionate relationship? Learn how to not just move on but MOVE FORWARD from an argument. Learn how to re-engage after the rumble is over in just a few minutes. Check out this marvelous maneuver for moving you and your beloved past the

"Let's not FORGET it's YOU and ME vs. the PROBLEM not you vs. me." I knew going about ANY action as enemies and not allies was NOT the Couple Culture dynamic either of us wanted to be a part of. We’re not only on the same team, we��’re each other’s #1 fan too! Toxic People, Fan, Teamwork, Our Relationship, Top 20, Healthy Habits, The Beatles, You And I, Let It Be

Healthy Habits that YOU commit to leaning into to create more TEAM between you and your beloved.

"Let's not FORGET it's YOU and ME vs. the PROBLEM not you vs. me." I knew going about ANY action as enemies and not allies was NOT the Couple Culture dynamic either of us wanted to be a part of. We’re not only on the same team, we’re each other’s #1 fan too!

Crossing The Finish Line

"ALONE we can do so LITTLE; TOGETHER we can do so MUCH." - Helen Keller

Resolving the hurdle we were facing was important, but HOW we handled it was even MORE important. Crossing the finish line as enemies or even with any adversarial or disconnected dynamic between us was NOT worth it. Plus we could accomplish so much more, with greater ease and better results if we worked on the hurdle as a united front, and stopped trading warring assaults. Scan our list for the healthy habits that YOU commit to leaning into to create more TEAM between you and your beloved.

No one needs to attend a workshop on how to stress out or lash out at your beloved. Getting upset, blaming your beloved, complaining about how things are… it happens all too naturally.

Learning to work together as a team, ESPECIALLY during stressful times, is a CRITICAL skill to fold into any healthy, happy and hot Couple Culture.

It takes something, yet one of my favorite reminders/mantras is “Wonderful is worth it!” Stressed Out, Healthy Happy, Worth It, A Team, Take That, Wonder

Wonderful is worth it!

No one needs to attend a workshop on how to stress out or lash out at your beloved. Getting upset, blaming your beloved, complaining about how things are… it happens all too naturally. Learning to work together as a team, ESPECIALLY during stressful times, is a CRITICAL skill to fold into any healthy, happy and hot Couple Culture. It takes something, yet one of my favorite reminders/mantras is “Wonderful is worth it!”

It sounds so terrible that you’d ever, even for a moment see your beloved as your adversary, yet it happens all the time, even in the best of marriages.

It’s all too easy to end up in an adversarial dynamic with your beloved if you don’t invest in intimacy and build an intentional Couple Culture.

Life is more often than not full and full-on whether it be work, family, health, whatever, there’s often A LOT going on. Maintaining connection, intimacy and allyship TAKES SOMETHING! Work Family, Family Health, News Blog, Read More, Good Things, In This Moment

Top 20 Tips for Tapping into Teamwork in your Relationship

It sounds so terrible that you’d ever, even for a moment see your beloved as your adversary, yet it happens all the time, even in the best of marriages. It’s all too easy to end up in an adversarial dynamic with your beloved if you don’t invest in intimacy and build an intentional Couple Culture. Life is more often than not full and full-on whether it be work, family, health, whatever, there’s often A LOT going on. Maintaining connection, intimacy and allyship TAKES SOMETHING!

Want to know how to navigate couple conflicts before they start, as they start, in the heat or it and after they're "over"?

It's not too late to register this month's FREE MASTERCLASS on 4 Key Tools for Keeping the Fights Clean

Join us LIVE, Mar 08th at 5:30 PM via Zoom. Come live to get the PLAYbook (usually $33), absolutely FREE - my treat! Plus come live and you can get your questions answered and some free coaching too. Free Coaching, Cleaning Tools, Too Late, Master Class, The 4, The Heat, Key

FREE MASTERCLASS: 4 Key Tools for Keeping the Fights Clean

Want to know how to navigate couple conflicts before they start, as they start, in the heat or it and after they're "over"? It's not too late to register this month's FREE MASTERCLASS on 4 Key Tools for Keeping the Fights Clean Join us LIVE, Mar 08th at 5:30 PM via Zoom. Come live to get the PLAYbook (usually $33), absolutely FREE - my treat! Plus come live and you can get your questions answered and some free coaching too.

What to do BEFORE any CONFLICTS start?

What to do BEFORE any CONFLICTS start to curate your intentional and intimate Couple Culture? As an ARGUMENTS emerges, PAUSE, call out B.I.B.T.O. Both Is Better Than One and challenge yourself to FIND the Synergy available in getting BOTH your needs met. Find out more about this tool PLUS 3 other in this month's FREE Masterclass, 4 Key Tools for Keeping the Fights Clean. Attend LIVE on March 08th at 5:30 PM PT and get your PLAYbook for FREE.

4 Key Tools for Keeping the Fights Clean

Don't get exhausted by everyday arguments. Kick your conflict resolution and quality communication skills up a notch instead! Having a few go-to tools for Keeping the Fights Clean can be the critical shift that empowers you to not get emotionally hijacked by your conflicts and instead to transform that energy into connection. Remember it ISN'T you! It’s not your beloved either. Nor your relationship. Struggling with communication and conflict is VERY common. You're not alone!

How Running Hot and Cold Kills Commitment

Most couples drift along day by day until conflict bites them in the butt. THEN they've got conflict to "deal with". Why not invest a little intention, attention and action BEFORE a fight starts so that in the future, any conflicts are easy to spot PLUS you have the habits and skills to head fights off at the pass. You might even learn to be able to translate any conflict into creativity and connection. This week we lean into Loving Better BEFORE the conflict even starts. We call it... How to Keep the Fights Clean BEFORE. Invest in intimacy BEFORE any argument emerges, we invite you to lean into Loving Better by looking at how hot and cold you are in your responses to your beloved. Where might you be more RESPONSIVE? How might you decrease some of the extremes and increase some of

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